It’s not Coaching, it’s Sovereign Submission
Will you honor your deepest desires and kneel into service while still embodying the confidence and power of healthy masculinity?
Redefining Submission
In men’s work, submission is not weakness. It’s the intentional act of yielding control in a way that demands trust, courage, and strength. In D/s dynamics, this takes the form of consensual power exchange. In men’s lives more broadly, it’s the practice of releasing the illusion of control so you can meet life—and your relationships—from a place of authenticity.
Why am I focusing on Submissive Men?
I’m a submissive man. I have a mistress I deeply love and am devoted to and I have found a lot of joy and happiness in submitting to her and taking on a full time 24/7 dynamic of service to her.
It only took me 48 years to finally and fully acknowledge my deepest desires and act on them.
I know what it’s like to struggle with the desire for submission. For a long time I questioned whether my desire to submit was just another avenue for toxic Nice Guy behaviors to come out or if it was an expression of healthy masculinity.
I’m a men’s coach who’s been engaged on the path of Men’s Work for a few years and while there’s a lot about the men’s movement I find to be affirming and support, there’s also a prevalent theme that men need to lead. I see it expressed by a number of men’s coaches and organizations in the men’s work space. What I don’t see expressed in the men’s movement is an acceptance or support of men who want to submit, instead of lead.
I don’t want to lead in my relationship. I don’t want to be in control. And I’m not the only man who feels this way, but when the prevalent message is that men must lead in relationship it creates an experience of exclusion.
Submission can be an expression of healthy masculinity, when it’s done right and in a way that allows the men to step into empowerment from under, with respect and trust for himself and from his dominant partner.
Vulnerability and Trust
Submission asks men to drop the armor. To trust another person with your body, your emotions, or your decisions requires radical vulnerability. This mirrors the deeper work men do when they stop hiding behind bravado or numbing habits and instead stand exposed, willing to be seen.
Power in Surrender
The paradox of submission is that by giving up control, you often discover a deeper power. Not the power of force or dominance, but the power of presence, service, and devotion. This is where surrender becomes a liberating act.
Presence and Submission
Presence is the heartbeat of submission. To truly submit, a man must remain deeply present: aware of his sensations, emotions, and boundaries in the moment. Without presence, submission can collapse into avoidance or disconnection. With presence, submission becomes a living meditation:
Embodied Listening – Feeling into the body’s cues instead of numbing out or checking out. Submission sharpens awareness of breath, muscle tension, and energetic shifts.
Trusting the Moment – Instead of rehearsing outcomes or controlling the flow, presence in submission is about meeting what arises in real time.
Responsibility in Surrender – Presence keeps submission from becoming abdication. You remain accountable to your “yes,” your limits, and your ongoing consent.
For men, this combination of presence and submission is revolutionary. It teaches that surrender isn’t escape, but instead is a form of mastery. By choosing to be fully present while giving up control, you deepen your integrity, expand your capacity to trust, and experience freedom beyond ego.
Submission as Spiritual Discipline
When practiced with presence, submission becomes more than a dynamic between partners. It becomes a spiritual discipline. It echoes meditation, prayer, and service: dropping the self’s need to control and opening to something larger. It’s a way of practicing humility without humiliation, devotion without loss of self, and freedom without detachment.
👉 In men’s work, submission and presence together forge a powerful path: surrendering control while staying grounded in awareness. This is how men discover the paradoxical truth that by yielding, they grow stronger.
Men. Can you relate to this? You want to live a life with rich, meaningful relationships, connection and intimacy, but you find yourself doing the following and never quite getting what you want:
Second-guessing your desire for submission and shaming yourself for wanting to give up control.
Putting pressure on yourself to perform, provide and take care of everyone else, while denying yourself your deepest needs and desires.
Paralyzed by fear and anxiety on the inside of having your desires discovered, while masking it all with a gritted smile and the mask of performative leadership.
Engaging in people pleasing and approval seeking to other people, in the hopes that they’ll approve and like you.
Lonely and lost, trying to lead yourself, even though you really don’t want to be in charge.
Punishing and shaming yourself for not being the man everyone expects you to be.
Endlessly arguing with the voice in your head about your decisions and choices.
Regretting past decisions, haunted by the cost to you and the people you love.
Anxiously running in circles, getting nowhere.
All of these patterns lead to feeling stuck: Mentally, emotionally and spiritually. And that stuckness impacts the quality of your life and relationships because you’re not honoring your deepest truths and desires.
it doesn’t have to be that way.
You deserve a life of connection, intimacy, and purpose, a life where you are embody your desires and submit from a place of conscious choice and embodied service.
But I’m not going to sugar coat it: It’s hard work. And it’s worth doing.
Creating your life, with decisive confidence, where you can act on your desires and be supported in your devotion takes time and effort and I’m right here with you all the way.
If any of this is landing with you, you’re not alone and you don’t have to stay stuck in conflict with yourself and your desires to submit and be of service to the feminine in your life.
What you’ll achieve when you work with me
Imagine waking up 6 months from now and…
Experiencing a sense of purpose, clarity and confidence about your decisions and how each day will unfold.
Breaking free from doom scrolling, porn, and other distracting habits and creating life-affirming, consistent habits.
Converting your desire into purpose driven submission and service to the woman in your life.
Showing up with presence in your relationships - with yourself, your family, friends and your communities.
Giving up performative control and leadership to serve from a place of embodied service and submission.
What makes my 1 on 1 program distinct
Unlike therapy or other coaching programs, what I offer my clients is a comprehensive program where we work through the following:
Physical Embodiment: A physiological and somatic based approach to connect with the intuitive wisdom of your body using timeless practices such as Qi Gong that guide you to honoring your core values and deepest truths.
Mental Resilience: Shadow work, parts work and archetypical facilitation to help you connect with the unheard parts of yourself that are trying to get your attention.
Emotional Freedom: Learn to experience and process emotions such as sadness, shame, anger, anxiety and fear without judgement, while breaking free of the patterns of suppression and avoidance and performance that keep you from your genuine self.
Spiritual Presence: Connect and integrate with the wild man, inner boy, and the world around you and discover the mission and purpose that you’ve been lacking, while also surrendering to your deepest desires and devotion
The sovereign submission Initiation Process
A Proven 5 phase system designed to initiate you into the enpresenced submissive energy of your life:
Phase 1: Deconstruct the Nice Guy - Identify the root of the nice guy patterns in your life and take them apart. They keep you from submitting in presence and with sovereignty.
Phase 2: Train the Embodied Man - Learn to step into boundaries, honor your sacred yes and no and choose yourself so you can fully submit with presence and awareness.
Phase 3: Embrace the Mystery of the Unknown - Lean into the edge of the unknown and convert your unexpressed desires into purposeful action that leads you to the greatest adventures and relationships of your life.
Phase 4: Create your Living Submissive Code - Take responsibility for your desires and longings by creating a code based on expressing your wants and needs clearly and transparently.
Phase 5: Become the Enpresenced submissive - Initiate into your full submissive presence and power by letting go of the need to be in control and surrendering to experience liberation.
How we work together
When we work together, we’re going on a journey. I’m your guide and you are the initiate into the unknown mystery of your submissive desires. I’m not here to be your dom. I’m here as a fellow submissive guiding you on a journey to give permission to voice and act on your deepest desires to submit and be in devotion to the feminine.
The ultimate goal is to help you transform your life physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually so that you become the enpresenced submissive man who is fully in touch with his desires and knows he’s expressing them as an expression of healthy, embodied masculinity.
Many men resist their submissive desires because modern narratives of masculinity treat submissive men as weak. But the choice to submit is a choice of strength, compassion and presence. When a man submits to a woman, he is giving his power and presence to her and serving her from a place of power. He isn’t abdicating his responsibility. He’s fully stepping into it and giving her the empowered service with full attention and choice.
Here’s what you get when we work together:
Personalized Coaching - We meet each week for 1 on 1 sessions that are designed for your specific needs. We focus on transmuting the obstacles into opportunities for growth - personally, professionally and relationally.
Telegram Text and Voice Note Check ins - In between our sessions I’ll check in with you once a week and you can check in as needed. I’ll always respond.
Weekly Journaling Prompts and Exercises - You’ll also have weekly training to help you sharpen your edge and step into your power. Some of this will be confronting, all of it will be liberating.
Movement and Breathing Practices - Getting out of your head and back into your body is essential. Your body has a wisdom that needs to be heard and through the practices we do you’ll get access to that wisdom and use it to transform your life.
Accountability and Support - Throughout this process (and after) I’ll be in your corner, supporting you through the transformations you make, celebrating your wins and keeping you accountable to your chosen journey.
What other men are saying about working with me
Taylor is kind and really listens to the people he coaches. We went over several issues, including setting boundaries and he helped me get better at setting boundaries. Taylor also understands the struggles that men go through and offered support and understanding. Taylor also helped me work on self-care with me. I highly recommend his coaching - Mark
The first question that Taylor asked me is if I could talk with y older self, what would he say to me about my life? I sat with that question for a long time. The tools and instructions that Taylor provided me helped me evolve as a man and figure out what I really want for my life. Taylor challenges you to do a deep dive into what masculinity means to you and the tools and coaching he provides will help you find the answers you need - Jack
The cost of staying stuck
Every day you waffle in indecision and wait -
You distract yourself or focus on band-aid solutions that aren’t addressing the empty ache at the core of your being.
Your stress deepens, putting your body, heart and mind at risk and taking away from the quality of your life and the intimate relationships you want.
Life passes you by and you feel disconnected a life of submission and service that provides the clarity and purpose you’ve been longing for..
What’s at stake isn’t happiness, health or wealth. It’s your future, and all the possibilities you want to turn into realities.
Your Next Step
Your journey with me starts with a single, no-pressure conversation. We’ll discuss your desires, goals and experiences.
It’s time to say yes to yourself and start the process to create your life on your terms. This may be one of the most important decisions you make to change the course of your life and relationships.
Our first clarity call is your first step toward the transformation you want. There’s no pressure. We’ll have a supportive conversation to explore if those program is the right fit for you.
I’m Taylor Ellwood
I’ve been where you are. I lost everything in my life because I second-guessed myself and didn’t honor my deepest desires and truths. It cost me relationships, happiness and most of all my self-respect and trust. I felt lost, out of control and hit rock bottom.
When I picked myself back up from hitting rock bottom, I made a promise to myself that I would honor my deepest desires and truth and live my life with integrity. Along the way I finally accepted my desire to submit and committed myself to a 24/7 D/S dynamic which has brought me the greatest satisfaction and happiness in my life.
My mission is to help submissive men accept their desires while also showing them submission is an expression of healthy masculinity.